Vulnerability

Being vulnerable is the scariest thing there is. It’s like exposing your soul to another person with the risk of it being trampled on and left for dead. Yes, I’m aware of how extreme that sounds, but that’s how I feel about being vulnerable.

There’s different ways to be vulnerable; you can be physically vulnerable by being exposed to the elements or the eyes of others, or you can be emotionally vulnerable by letting someone in to your thoughts. It’s all equally terrifying.

Being on the internet you get to choose: you can either create a whole new person and build up walls that make you seem perfect to the outside world, or you can make the choice of being open and honest about your flaws and personality and face any and all criticism.

It’s often been said that the negative sticks out much more than the positive, and it’s true. You can be surrounded by plenty of lovely people who do everything in their power to make you feel as amazing as they think you are, but still that one person who says something mean or even just a little joke about you will be the thing that’s engrained in your brain. For a really long time.

I like to be an open book online; I like the thought that people reading my blog or watching my videos feel comforted by the fact that I’m as much of a human mess as they are (although I’m not really the kind of person that could pass for perfection anyway, I’m sure it’s still comforting?). But it’s also so scary. I wrote my first blogpost 4,5 years ago and posted my first Youtube video in 2013. What has held me back since then has been fear far more than time. Most of the time I’m completely happy with what I create until I think of someone else seeing it. That’s not good. It has taken me until now to munster enough confidence to not care (too much). I shouldn’t have had to.

Everyone knows what it’s like to feel vulnerable or scared thereof, so why bring each other down? It takes an instant to reread what you were about to comment on someone else’s picture, post or video. It is literally zero effort to not reply. It makes a world of difference when you say something nice. Unless you think someone is harming themself or others with what they’re doing, leave them to do their thing or choose to encourage them! No one gains from you spreading your shitty mood.

And also, don’t be afraid to do what you love <3

How do you spread positivity?

Love,

Ruby